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Guys, go see Barbie but watch Ken
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Everybody is raving about how woke and feminist the Barbie movie is and either loves it or hates it. I can see why, but I think few people pay enough attention to a very positive and powerful message it holds for men: You Are Kenough Yeah, I know the movie has been out for ages. What…
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The Shades of Rejection: Friend-Zoning, Sex-Zoning, and So Much More
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Rejection is more complex than you think, but thinking about it in a more nuanced way will help you process it better My Ex-Lover I used to have a great lover. She was hot, fiercely smart, and joyfully adventurous. This one time, we were horny on the way to a party, so another lover lent me…
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How Do Men Stop Being Needed and Start Being Wanted
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Women no longer need men. If guys want to find a partner, they must focus on being wanted. But they also can’t desperately need women, as this only reverses the dynamic. Instead, we should seek balance and use becoming wanted as an opportunity to grow. Let’s start with a metaphor A few years ago I moved…
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Defuse Pointless Gender Arguments with the Power of Psychology
You know how when somebody else is late, they’re a horrible person, but when you’re late, there’s always a good reason for it? The psychological mechanism behind that attitude is at the roots of many disagreements about gender. Fortunately, there are ways you can avoid it. Late, but useful I always find it endearing when psychologists…
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Don’t Trust the Old Man’s Map, or What’s Up with Jordan Peterson?
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Jordan Peterson describes the modern world as chaotic and claims to offer you a map that will help you safely navigate through it. But as the world changes, maps go out of date and lead you astray. And since the Chaos is not going away, it’s time you stop fearing it and learn to surf…
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Do Guys Want Sex, or What?
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Image by KYS, available on this gallery page Can ancient philosophy help you deal with feeling unwanted, undesired and deeply sexually frustrated? Men crave validation, acceptance, and comfort, we want to feel wanted and visible. But the main way we have been taught to get all of that is through sex. That’s not always healthy or…
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How Logic Can Help You Defuse Pointless Gender Arguments
We need to end the patriarchy and the discrimination of women now! Are you kidding me? Feminism has gone too far, it’s men who are discriminated against now, men are the victims! Men are the victims?! What complete nonsense! It’s women who are being harmed! No, men! No, women! No, men! … How many such…
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The Five Stages of Men’s Grief
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The psychological model of the stages of grief is used to better understand how people experience loss or change and to explain their often difficult behaviour. I think we should apply it to how men experience and react to the modern changing world. Some background Back in the 1960s, a Swiss-American psychiatrist Elisabeth Kübler-Ross was…
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Courage in the modern world
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Courage is one of the most ancient male virtues. It played a pivotal role for Homer and was central for the Philosopher Kings ruling Plato’s Just City, while Aristotle made it a paradigm virtue in his Nikomachean Ethics. They called it ἀνδρεία (andreia): literally, ‘manliness’. Nearly two and a half thousand years later, much of…