Category: Love, Sex and Dating

I wrote a text about this before. I still hate the phrase ‘body counts’ but I saw the replies and they made me think that I should approach the subject differently — with more understanding and guidance. Let’s talk about solutions and being better men. Let’s talk about courage. Let’s talk about what’s right for…

I hate this term. I’d rather talk about being more sexually experienced or having had many lovers. Many men have very strong feelings about dating women who have had sex with more than a handful of guys. They can have preferences, for sure, but what do those preferences say about them? Is this a good…

For millennia, most men and women operated based on a reciprocal deal: men satisfied women’s basic needs and women satisfied men’s psychological needs. As the world has changed, fewer women need or want this deal, leaving men in a void. Now, men need to find a way forward. Here is how. In 1969, somebody graffitied…

Are there innate gender differences which continue to determine our sex drives or is sex drive a social construct that can be changed as societies, cultures, and technologies change? As with all the nature-nurture debates, the answer is: yes. As in: both. D’uh. But there is some interesting science involved that you should hear about.…

Rejection is more complex than you think, but thinking about it in a more nuanced way will help you process it better My Ex-Lover I used to have a great lover. She was hot, fiercely smart, and joyfully adventurous. This one time, we were horny on the way to a party, so another lover lent me…

Women no longer need men. If guys want to find a partner, they must focus on being wanted. But they also can’t desperately need women, as this only reverses the dynamic. Instead, we should seek balance and use becoming wanted as an opportunity to grow. Let’s start with a metaphor A few years ago I moved…